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To consciously manifest life joyously in the present! Aloha

I do not remember the show I was watching but a few months back I heard the actor make this statement.  I thought, “wow that is wonderful, I want to write about that.”  So I jotted it in my notes and well, today is the day.  It has been twenty years since my life took a turn for new and exciting challenges with a new and fresh perspective.  I was on a camping trip that I could not afford to be on, it was a group of families that had planned the trip for quite a while.  I am not a planner, in fact, back then, I was more of a procrastinator.  In this case, the plans were set but I was broke, I kept pretending it would work out but deep down inside I knew I was going to let my family and friends down.  We were supposed to leave in a few days and I told my wife we just couldn’t swing it, camping, I couldn’t afford camping!  The week before, my oldest son asked me to buy him sneakers and I could not afford those.  Well, I was not feeling so good about myself and my future.  I was sober ten years, married with awesome kids and I was a “weenie!”  I could not afford camping and worse yet I could not afford to buy my son a pair of sneakers he really wanted. 

I was at work and my wife called me and said, “our friends really want us there and they will lend us the money to go, can we go?”  Although it was embarrassing I said yes.  I am grateful I did.  While we were there our friend pulled me to the side and said she wanted to suggest something.  She wanted me to sit with a friend of ours to discuss finance.  I remember thinking, “finances, I do not need a financial lesson I need more money!”  But, she had just lent us money to get there so I had no choice but to say yes!  I will not go into the details, but I will say my life changed radically.  

What I learned at and after this meeting was simple yet profound.  It was the foundation for my life moving forward.  What came of that meeting eventually lead me to a cassette program by Earl Nightingale titled “Lead the Field.”   I began to listen to that series of tapes on a daily basis and began to realize that my thinking was at the core of my failure.  I learned that to manifest joy I must live in the moment, the present, it is a gift!  I began to stretch myself and think outside the box, I stopped watching the news at 11!  Instead, I began to read books on self-improvement and listen to audios of the same genre.  I started putting better thoughts and build action plans for success rather than simply wish and hope for the best.  I learned that service to others was my purpose in life but I did not need to live my life as a pauper.  I could “Be,” “Do,” and “Have” what I wanted if I was willing to work for it, believe it was right for me and persevere.  I learned that life is meant to be enjoyed and not endured.  

I would love to tell you that all went perfectly since then, but that is not the truth.  I have been up and down financially, I have made poor choices, made the same mistakes more than once!  But what I haven’t done is given up!  I remember buying into the depression narrative, the “I’m broken” narrative of self-help.  I listened to the talk as if it were gospel, and I would work on myself to get better!  What I learned is simple, focus on where your purpose is leading, condition your mind to be happy, joyous and free, and do the next right thing!  The difference is night and day, I remember clearly, to varying degrees, going to bed praying that I do not awaken again, yes sober right up through ten years, still feeling like a loser.  I am happy to report that through failure and adversity today I am excited to awaken!  I am grateful to have another shot at another day.  Today, Aloha rings true, To consciously manifest life joyously in the present!


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