“The great Western disease is, ‘I’ll be happy when… When I get the money. When I get a BMW. When I get this job.’ Well, the reality is, you never get to when. The only way to find happiness is to understand that happiness is not out there. It’s in here. And happiness is not next week. It’s now.” — Marshall Goldsmith
It is so easy to get caught up in the I will be OK “when” syndrome. I remember in my early recovery feeling that way often. When I get through this, when I get through the steps, when I get a better job, when I get a nice apartment, when, when, when… As frustrating as it seems in the beginning it is better than the alternative, “Frig It”!
As we progress in our recovery and life we learn how to deal with the emotional roller coaster of “when”. We learn that our happiness is here and now. The journey is up and down but we do not need to live emotionally up and down.
I went through a stage that I wanted reasonable happiness. But I quickly learned that happiness is happiness and I did not need to put a limit on my joy. I wanted to protect myself from let down as if I would never find true happiness. I was wrong, when I finally let go and began to live in joy, joy remained, “Within”! Life is good!
Go, Go, Go…