True Rewards

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This is indeed the kind of giving that actually demands nothing. He does not expect his brother sufferer to pay him, or even to love him. And then he discovers that by the divine paradox of this kind of giving he has found his own reward, whether his brother has yet received anything or not.

TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 109

 

What I have found to be the most beneficial aspect of my recovery has been daily prayer and meditation.  My prayers and methods have changed over the years.  Yet, one thing is a constant, I get up every morning and I spend time silently doing my ritual.  It is as natural and expected as brushing my teeth, it is a constant!  This morning I was reading the Daily Reflections and the reading did exactly that, it got me reflecting!  My first thought was, “people are smart to not use me as a sponsor!” 

Over the years I have sponsored quite a few men and none of them ever stayed very close to me the way I did with my sponsors (not including anyone I sponsor today).  I remember the first fellow I was sponsoring and he started drinking again, I thought, “well, I suck at this!”  Of course, I shared about it and people reminded me that I was a successful sponsor because I stayed sober!  

That is a truism, today I do sponsor with no expectations, I actually do not fit into the mold of a “sponsor” in the area I live in, as the role is often a bit outside of what worked for me.  They used the Big Book and the 12 and 12 and very liberally I might add.  My sponsors never told me what or how to do anything.  They shared their experience with me and directed me to people that had similar challenges in the past and overcame them successfully if they themselves did not have the same issues.  They allowed me to grow at my own pace. 

The point that jumped out of today’s reflection for me was simple,  life has been good to me and all because I put my hand out when it is needed with no expectation that the other person will or will not recover or even accept the help.  I remain committed to assisting others when assistance is asked for, with no expectation for compensation and no expectation for their results. 

Life is goooood!

 

Dan 🙂   

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