“Be interested – rather than interesting.” – Marshall Sylver
We all know the type, they love to talk about themselves and their great accomplishments. When you begin to tell them a story about yourself, they chime in and tell you more about themselves. We get tired of listening to them. I think we probably all have some of this within ourselves at times. I remember many years ago someone said to me you talk too much. How can you help someone when it seems as if it is “all about you?” He said, you have two ears and one mouth and as a helper you need to use them proportionately. Seek first to understand rather than to be understood.
Boy that hit me like a rock in the forehead. I had never realized I was that way. I thought I was doing a great job relating my story back to people. I thought I put them at ease by telling of my experience, strength, and hope.
Now many years later I remain cognizant that people love to talk and I enjoy listening. When I catch myself talking more than listening I remind myself that I am a beacon of hope and not the purveyor of the latest “Dan” news… Life is good!
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