Seek first…

by Daniel · 1 comment

“Be interested – rather than interesting.” – Marshall Sylver

We all know the type, they love to talk about themselves and their great accomplishments. When you begin to tell them a story about yourself, they chime in and tell you more about themselves. We get tired of listening to them. I think we probably all have some of this within ourselves at times. I remember many years ago someone said to me you talk too much. How can you help someone when it seems as if it is “all about you?” He said, you have two ears and one mouth and as a helper you need to use them proportionately. Seek first to understand rather than to be understood.

Boy that hit me like a rock in the forehead. I had never realized I was that way. I thought I was doing a great job relating my story back to people. I thought I put them at ease by telling of my experience, strength, and hope.

Now many years later I remain cognizant that people love to talk and I enjoy listening. When I catch myself talking more than listening I remind myself that I am a beacon of hope and not the purveyor of the latest “Dan” news… Life is good!

Go, Go, Go…

Dan 🙂

Buy the EBook Click here to buy the paperback book! Download the book for your Kindle

{ 1 comment… read it below or add one }

william hay June 18, 2012 at 10:20 am

Dear Dan, great to hear from ytou,
Wow, I have def been giulty as charged on this topic. The good new is as I stay sober you become self aware, and. Learn that to listen is to give, to talk about ME is taking. I have to be the center of it all, EGO. Thank God I will never reach perfection concerning this matter, however, prgress has been made. For us to grpw in our sober lives, we musy chanfe, and as we do this our self esteem strengthens, our Hope is feed and the journey continues. I am so grateful to be sober each day I wake, for then I have the option of making the right choice!! Thank you for your service. Life Is GoooooooooD! Love ya, william

Leave a Comment

Previous post:

Next post: