Perform or Conform, You Be the Judge…

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“Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is bliss, taste it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it.”
– Mother Theresa

It has been over two years now that we lost our cousin Joey he was 46 years old and passed on from a massive heart attack. Recently a childhood friend Jimmy died in the same manner. When Joey died it was an absolute shock to me. It made me think about my priorities, challenges, struggles, and direction. I thought to myself in a very different way then ever before, “why would I worry or panic in any situation? I can only do what I can do here and now. The best practice for me is to work as hard as I can, love as much as I can, be the best person today and take everything else as it comes”. Of course I have heard those things said before and I have said them to alleviate the pressure. But now I was saying them with a twist, “today could be my last day on this earth!”

I recognize from a different perspective today that “Life is Good”. Today I live with a true passion to be the Beacon of Hope for people that struggle with addiction. I have a vision to “Shape” 1,000,000 people in 10 years with our “Shaping” method. Recovery is about Life, it is as expressed by Mother Theresa an “Opportunity”!

Often people think of “Rehab” as the beginning of abstinence a way to indoctrinate an afflicted individual into the accepted method of recovery. However it is much more it is the beginning of the journey into a recovered life. It is preparing folks to develop the tools to think and respond correctly. Simply filling people with information, meetings and therapy does not prepare the individual to fulfill their promise.

I know literally thousands of people in recovery and many are missing the boat. If you ask them if they believe in “The Promises” offered in the Twelve Steps they would quickly say yes! Yet spend some time talking with them and you will realize their happiness is surface level. They have “conformed” to the culture of recovery. They have accepted their lot in life. They live one day at a time to a flaw. True happiness, alludes them. They say things like, “my worst day sober is better than my best day drunk!” Yes I get it I understand the thought yet why settle?

There is a paradigm shift that must take place in all of us. That shift must entail Mother Theresa’s Mantra. Regret for our past is a sin. Yes, regret for our past is a sin. It is hurtful and painful. It has no place in the recovered persons thoughts. The twelve steps are designed to eliminate regret so that an individual can live to their potential. Living to your potential takes guts. Living to your potential takes 100% responsibility for your life and your decisions. Conformity is dangerous. Abiding by the law of man is required however conforming to the mediocre mentality of others is dangerous.

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