Pain Becomes a Strength…

by Daniel · 1 comment

Life is very interesting…in the end, some of your greatest pains become your greatest strengths. — Drew Barrymore

In the life of recovery I would venture to say that most of our greatest pains and challenges become our strengths. Without a doubt the pain of addiction converts into the joy of living when we recover. But that is not the only pains we grow from in recovery. First let me dispel a LIE, the lie that has the ability to send us all into the tailspin of “I did it again”.

What is the LIE? Simply put, “we should always learn from our mistakes”. Our negative self talk volume increases when we make the same mistake more than once. The truth of the matter is this, we will make mistakes and sometimes the same mistakes more than once until we make the decision to change the behavior. But and this is the big but, sometimes we change the behavior only to revert back to the behavior again in the future.

Does this make us impossible? Are we broken? Is there something wrong with us? The answer is No, No, No… It is human behavior, we must give ourselves a break. Utilization of the Tenth Step is a great tool to minimize reverting back to the behavior we want to change. But it is not necessarily a permanent fix. We are human and we make mistakes, sometimes the same ones over again.

The LIE is dangerous because it weakens us. It is divisive. It strengthens the negative self talk and that can be dangerous for an addict! Combat the LIE with the truth!   So what is the strength? It is our ability to overcome adversity, to recognize when we are wrong and promptly admit it, it is intuitively knowing how to handle situations that used to baffle us and more… Life is good!

Go, Go, Go…


Dan 🙂

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william e hay March 17, 2012 at 12:02 pm

Good morning Dan,
Just yesterday I attended a meeting, we read from” As Bill Sees it”, and the topic was character defects. It is so important for us to make these meeting for it reminds us of what we often forget. The lie as you stated and repeating those patterns of destructive behavior, if one is not vigilant in staying aware of how we act on a daily basis and working that 10th step we are doomed to repeat are mistakes! I shared that recently I interupted my wife, during a conversation, the next morning I did a 10th step and called to apologise. Some might think this is not a big deal, but thruogh the awareness and the tools I have been given in AA, I know for me this so called lapse in judgement is part of the “I have to be right” William. If not adrressed this so called small character defect will open the door for so much more, the end result, a drink. For myself I must always notice when I am moving in the wrong direction, and make the switch. As they say progress not perfection, however, speaking only for myself, making progress must be part of my day, every day! The big stuff you’ll see coming and move out of the way, it is the small stuff that slowly build and brings you down. Thank God for meetings, the program, and those like you who remind us to be vigilant. For if we forget, that beautiful blessed psychic and spiritual change ceases to exist, and we are left dry and miserable or drunk and miserable. Thank you for inspiering me to do the work today, for to return to who I was, well, I’d rather die. Love you Dan, God Bless. William Hay

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