HOW to Recover

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How does someone recover? The self-help approach starts with the premise of H.O.W. Honesty, Open mindedness, and Willingness. What exactly does that mean?

Honesty is required. To become actively involved in your recovery you must be honest. Starting with being honest with your-self. You are not seeking recovery from addiction (other than a food addiction) because you drink too many ice-cream sodas! What does honesty mean? Taking an inventory of your actions, beliefs, contradictions, and the reality of your addiction or dependency. If you are honest with your self you can begin to overcome your addiction. If you doubt your addiction or you minimize the challenge you have with the use of substances you are wasting your time. My suggestion, suffer well!

Open mindedness is keeping an open mind to explore all suggestions. Think of a suggestion as a skydiver would the suggestion of pull the rip chord on the count of ten after you have jumped from the plane! Does that mean you will like the suggestion? No it is going against the grain of what you are familiar with. Fear creeps in and you begin to feel you cannot accept the suggestion.

There is a difference between not accepting the suggestion and truly working through the suggestion and recognizing that it is not a good fit. To often I encounter folks that will not attempt anything outside of their comfort zone. Typically, I shake my head and think, “why did they ask”? If their way was working why am I happy, joyous and free living a clean and sober lifestyle and they are not?

Willingness is accepting the suggestion and actually attempting to implement it. Recognize that there are no rules simply suggestions that are based on proven ideals and strategies. Finding the strategies that assist you in attaining a joyous recovery is the ideal.

The beginning of attaining your ideal is changing your attitude. Developing an attitude of gratitude. Getting started requires a willingness to look at the glass half full. Folks in early recovery often focus on the negative. This is natural; first it begins at our infancy stage. One of the first words we hear as children is “No”. For most of us we are being corrected three times as much as we are being encouraged. So negativity is prevalent and expected. The second factor is if we focus on what others are doing or saying we take the focus off ourselves. Remember most of your responses that follow “But” are defense mechanisms to shut down your H.O.W.

That is why focusing on your strengths as opposed to what is wrong with you is preferred. It is the start of converting from a negative thinker to a positive thinker. If your goal is to attain happiness then implement the H.O.W. challenge. To start begin by developing a Positive Mental Attitude. To develop a Positive Mental Attitude you begin by focusing on the positives in your life. Write a gratitude list, listen to positive people, do not watch the broadcast news, stay away from the television unless it is the learning channel, sports, or nature and wilderness shows (Stay away from the conspiracy theory shows, they tend to be negative). Negativity will keep you held down in many areas of life. This is especially true in the social aspect of life. In fact not many people like to be around a negative person.

If you doubt this premise you are not ready to change. You are smarter than all of the most highly successful and happy people that have ever walked the face of this earth. Continue to blame others and walk around miserable! Suffer well!

If you want the happiness and freedom that happy and free people have, do what they do! Anything less is a waste of your time.


Dan ☺

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