If you haven’t forgiven yourself something, how can you forgive others?”
– Dolores Huerta
Forgiveness absolutely goes both ways. We need to forgive ourselves as well as forgive others. For some of us this concept is a contradiction and causes us to be disturbed at times. Yet the truth is simple, if we can not forgive ourselves we will find it difficult at best to forgive others. When we walk around with guilt and shame we are susceptible to carry a negative attitude along with us. We hurt ourselves when we make even the slightest mistakes. We tell ourselves terrible things about who we are. We say things like, “look at you, you did it again, you will never learn will you?”
Feeling good is important in the recovery process. Of course being discontent or simply out of sorts is often the motivator to change or at least to begin to address the challenges we face. But beating ourselves up at each turn is counter productive. Life is way too good to waste on fear, anger, worry and a negative sense of self. Forgive yourself and forgive others as you want to be forgiven.
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