Dr. Joe Rubino, Self Esteem Expert…

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Today and tomorrow I am sharing info from two people that I respect and admire. They both are on top of their games. They know their business and they are professional, courteous, and prompt. These are traits that are rare these days. I have never met either one of these folks face to face. Yet I do not hesitate to recommend them to you. That is confidence in them!

I made a decision when I began to Blog. I committed to myself that I would not Blog on any product or service unless I personally utilized that service. If for some reason I felt the info was important to share in a timely fashion that I would share the info with a disclaimer that I have not utilized the service yet. I also committed to refuse any compensation for the service. In fact, when we have been approached to act as an affiliate we have simply requested that any compensation that would be paid to us would be given to charity.

I tell you this because it lends to the credibility of our recommendations that we make. Today’s message is from Dr. Joe Rubino. I met Joe on SelfGrowth.com. I subscribed to his Newsletter and Self Esteem Course. I have found that his newsletter is one of the best. It is simple and easy to read and follow. He does not send a bunch of useless junk my way. Often folks in recovery think that they are different from the rest of the world. Read Joe’s work and you will realize that we are no different from any one else. Joe’s work is not exclusive to the recovering individual, yet it rings home many of the same exercises and techniques we teach.

Joe has graciously accepted an invitation to offer a one-hour tele-web-seminar for the Recovery Center at an unbelievable rate for us. If you would like to join us on October 1, 2008 at 10 AM please send me an e-mail and I will give you the details. There is no expense to you, however, The Last Resort Panama is purchasing Joe’s program for each of our rehab guests in addition to the seminar rate. If you choose to receive the program it is $37. This is not a sales seminar it is content based. The Last Resort Panama does not receive any compensation for this event.

Enjoy the message:

This is Joe Rubino and I’m writing today to focus your awareness on the source of your actions. As human beings, we operate daily reflecting a wide range of emotions with a multitude of motivations fueling our behaviors. All too often, we react emotionally to what others say or do. If our reactions are preceded by the emotions of fear, anger, or sadness, we forfeit our ability to act with personal power and effectiveness in lieu of a knee-jerk response. This reaction is all too often sourced in fear and low self-esteem.

We may focus on what’s wrong with us and our lives or fear being controlled, hurt, or taken advantage of. We may overlook the many things we have in our lives for which we should rightly be grateful. When we doubt our ability to thrive and access the abundance we see all around us in the world, we react instead from the concern of scarcity and the expectation of failure, hurt, and disappointment. We may see ourselves in competition for the world’s resources and the love and attention of others rather than realizing that there is more than enough of all that is good to go around. We forget that we manifest what we expect rather than needing to compete for limited resources.

Whenever we forget that we are magnificent beings and that there is plenty of wealth, happiness, fun, and fulfillment to go around, we might feel the need to protect ourselves from what we perceive to be a dangerous world. We likewise tend to forget that others operate from the same lacking self-confidence, scarcity of gratitude, and deficient self-love that we often do. So, whenever two or more individuals see themselves as not good enough to tap into the world’s abundance and get all their needs met from a physical, social, mental, and emotional perspective, conflicts are likely to arise. The result is broken relationships, strained communication, emotional pain, struggle, and suffering. All of these are needless and optional for those who realize their ability to detach from the struggle and master their emotional response.

When we stop to realize that everyone else suffers from the same self-doubt and fear of being dominated and cheated out of getting their fair share of love, fun, money, possessions, and security, we can break the vicious cycle of endless competition and continual striving for domination. We can realize that cooperation and communication is more effective in producing harmony than competition and a focus on self-interest based on fear. We can intentionally choose to trust that others are doing the best they know how to do based upon how they see the world. We can assume that they act from good intentions, even when we fear the opposite.
We can hold them as worthy, competent, loving, good natured and capable of creating win-win relationships rather than fearing them as hateful, ill meaning, incompetent, unworthy, selfish opponents.

When we decide to champion others by looking for the best in them and interact with them out of an attitude of gratitude for their gifts, strengths, and positive qualities, in such as manner that they are clear that we hold them as intrinsically good and worthy of our love and respect, we provide for them a new and exciting opportunity for them to show up for us in this manner. Our decision to hold others as great (because they really are when we strip away their anger, fears, and insecurities) allows them the freedom to rise to our expectations. By operating from love and gratitude for the wisdom and empathy we develop as a result of our interactions with others, we see their mistakes as temporary indiscretions producing valuable lessons from which to learn and grow rather than reflections of a fundamentally defective being.

The key to bringing out the best in others is non-attachment. When we realize that we have total control over our response to any situation, and we give up our right to be invalidated by others or control them, we will possess a newfound freedom that allows us to exit the drama of conflict in favor of understanding, compassion, and love. Decide now to be grateful for the challenges you will encounter in your life and business. See the problems that arise as opportunities for your personal development. Look for these challenges as you go about your day, be grateful when you encounter them, and seek out the gifts awaiting your discovery.

Exercise for Expanding Gratitude and Shifting Your Reactive Nature

1. List all the things you have decided to be grateful for in your life and business.
2. In your daily journal, record each time you fail to express gratitude for a challenging situation.
3. Catch yourself reacting emotionally to what someone says or does and shift your perception in that moment to appreciate the learning experience at hand.
4. In your daily life and business, who are you not holding as magnificent?
5. How can you champion their excellence and express gratitude for the opportunity to grow in love and wisdom that they are gifting you instead of reacting with anger, sadness, or fear?
6. Who are you seeking to control or avoid being controlled by?
Will you take on the practice of non-attachment in your relationship with them by creating space for them to be who they are? Do this for 30 days and record in your journal how your interactions with them evolve. Make note of something that you can be grateful for in each situation.

Dr. Joe Rubino is a life-changing life optimization and business coach and the best-selling author of TheSelfEsteemBook.com and 11 other transformational books available worldwide in 19 languages.
To receive a complimentary audio program entitled “7 Steps to
Soaring Self-Esteem” and a free 1-year membership in The Success
Achievers’ Club ($129 value), visit
http://www.TheSelfEsteemSystem.com/1
For more information on his books, audios, and coaching program, visit
http://www.CenterForPersonalReinvention.com or email him at DrJoeRubino@CenterForPersonalReinvention.com

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