You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.
— Richard Buckminster Fuller
I do a quick exercise in my lectures I ask someone to put their hand up against mine. I put a little pressure on their hand with mine and they always push back. I have never had anyone not push back. Our nature is to push back. It is the same way with our mental status. As we add pressure our mind pushes back. To make effective change we must build a new model that we follow. We must realign our strategy and focus on that strategy rather than force change using the opposite of what we currently do.
Most of the people that I work with are successful in some area of their lives. I always point out to them that if they are successful in one area of life they can be successful in the other areas. Most folks attempting to recover from addiction fall victim to the three “P”s of helplessness.
Permanent; they believe their life condition is permanent.
Pervasive; that their condition pervades all areas of their lives.
Personal; where there is something wrong with them.
These are myths, if we simply change our strategy and focus on where we want to and are now heading we will recover. For permanent sobriety and abstinence we must do the work so we clear out all the dirty laundry but primarily where our focus goes, energy flows!
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